Top Ten Things I Do To Get Black People to Notice Me (Like Me)

13 Mar


Wendy Jane’s Soul Shake Disclaimer

I realize that every time I say, “I like black people because….., or “I like soul music…” inferring that that connects me to all black people,..that I am generalizing, stereotyping, maybe patronizing, idealizing, and exoticizing (okay, so that’s not a word), too. I know not all black people like to, or  even can dance, and I know there are a lot of black people who would rather listen to, say, Garth Brooks or Metallica, than Jay Z or Mary J Blige. I know this, and am poking fun at myself, or maybe really experiencing white guilt, for entertaining such thoughts and feelings. Please forgive me. Thank you.

Here we go…

  1.  Tell a black person from the tri-state area that I grew up in Waterbury, Connecticut—Waterbury, being the operative word.  (Since Waterbury has a large black population, I’m hoping they’ll know I’m down with the whole black/white relations thing:)  Tell a white person from the wealthier, whiter Fairfield County area of Connecticut, the same thing. (I get to show off that I didn’t come from a white candy-ass town like they did.)
  1. Say hi to all the black people in the room before I say hi to the white ones.
  1. Wear my Michael Jackson earrings with my hair tied back in a ponytail.

Michael Jackson earrings


  1. Attend cultural events, like gallery openings, author talks, documentary film screenings, museum exhibits that feature black artists and subject matter.  Smile smugly to myself that I am a champion of diversity in the arts.
  1. Listen to old school soul music in my car with the windows rolled down, and hope when I’m stopped at a light, someone who is black will be in their car beside me, and think I’m cool.  (Am mad that people walking by all have their ipod earplugs in, and negate my ability to try out my cool factor with them.)
  1. Tell black people how I always wanted to go to public high school so I could have more diversity in my life.  (My high school had a 40% black student body)
  1. Once in a blue moon, dress all funky like Lauryn Hill from her Miseducation album era.
  1. Feel hip when I go to soul food restaurants when in a place that has them, even though because I’m a vegetarian I can’t eat half the menu.
  1. Read books by black authors, either novels, or non-fiction books on topic of race, and be sure to pull the book out in a public place, like an airport or cafe, when black people are around.
  1. Act all casual when talking with someone who is black, like I’m not super delighted that I’m talking to a black person, even though my obsession makes me feel super delighted that I’m talking to a black person.

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